Amber J.

I’ve already achieved two of my goals: work at a magazine, and live in New York City.

I did both all by myself.

Most people know me as “Amber J.” I’m a sucker for good quotes, and a funny story. I’m the ultimate people-person. I love to talk. I’m the friend who always has a listening ear, even when the train is rumbling loudly in the background. I’m more peace n’ love than urban. I’m that Southern chick sashaying my way through the big city. I like smiling at random people I make eye contact with. Anything less would be rude. I just wasn’t raised that way.  I’m hospitable.  I’ll happily feed you spaghetti and cornbread.

On the subject of how I was raised, I grew up, like most Gen Y’ers,  being told that I can be anything I want to be.  Told that I am a “possibility” with a capital “P”. All of these years later, I still believe that. I think we just have to work a little harder at figuring out what that “possibility” is.

When I moved to N.Y.C. I didn’t have a job lined up, or an apartment (stayed with my lovely ex-boyfriend for three weeks), and honestly, the only plan I had was BE SUCCESSFUL.  Too bad that plan didn’t come with any instructions or bullet points.

Oh yeah, did I mention I moved during a recession? That unemployment levels were at an all-time high?  I know a little something about waxing optimistic during the tough times.

My mission with The Fab Life Project is to document the things that puzzle, inspire, and provoke members of my generation.  I aim to provide this info in real time. I’m six years into my twenties, and I’ve learned enough to reflect, but not enough to stop questioning.  I don’t want to turn 30,  look back and say, “Damn, my life was really great.” I want to recognize that now.  Part of my mission is encouraging others to do the same.

I close with one of my fav quotes: “Happiness is a journey, not a destination.” Thank you for joining me on this journey.

  1. #1 by Yogi on September 27, 2010 - 8:05 pm


  2. #2 by alex on September 27, 2010 - 9:31 pm

    Hot dang Ambi! This is some high quality info. Reading this was a real eye opener darn- it! I want my happiness now! Forget later… NOOOOOW! Ok, now that the theatrics are out of the way, I liked it Amber. I like this fresh idea, this project. This summons me if you will. I’ll definitely keep checking in to see what my best bud is writing. YEEEEHEEEEE! ( You know I had to end with theatrics too.. come on now, there is a little thing called parallelism

    • #3 by amberinnyc on September 28, 2010 - 1:48 pm

      Thanks Alex!

      I always aim to write things that are eye-opening. I’m really, really passionate about young people/professionals building the type of lifestyles they want.

  3. #4 by Miss Malorie on November 9, 2010 - 2:27 pm

    I just stumbled across this site today, and clearly, someone is speaking to me.

    I want to move to New York, and I want to write, and the thought doesn’t go away. (It sinks down for a minute, but always resurfaces.) But I always make excuses for why it won’t work. (Ranging from, “I hate cold weather,” to “I have no money.”) Hearing about how you did exactly what you wanted to do (and in the recession; you’re a G!) gives me some serious inspiration.

    Thank you for sharing this. :)

    • #5 by amberinnyc on November 9, 2010 - 2:36 pm

      YOU CAN DO IT!
      In fact, let me say that one more time, YOU CAN DO IT!!!

      It’s not easy. It is cold. There will be a lot of times when you won’t have money, and you will think, “Dang, PB&J, again?” But the thing you will have plenty of?
      Pride in yourself for chasing after your goals.

      Thanks so much for sharing your sentiments with me. It lets me know that I really am doing something important here. Go forth and be fabulous.

  4. #6 by Miss Malorie on November 10, 2010 - 9:36 am

    Thank you for that! And hey, PB&J is better than nothing at all! I spend a lot of time eating ham sandwiches now, so it’s not something that will come as a shock ;)

    You are doing something important :)

  5. #7 by Alisha on January 3, 2011 - 6:43 pm

    Hi! Don’t know how I found your blog, but it’s great! I have a feeling I’m slightly older than you (I’m almost 30!), but I’m a Tennessee girl, too! I’d love to work at a magazine in NYC, but I’m in Memphis. Good luck on your future. I will add you to my blogroll. Continue to be fabulous!

    • #8 by amberinnyc on January 4, 2011 - 9:20 am

      Yay for Tennessee girls with ambition!! Remember, age is nothing but a number. You can totally accomplish anything you put your mind to. Go forth and be fabulous!

  6. #9 by Peter McDermott on January 26, 2011 - 3:54 pm


    I found your blog after reading an article on FastCompany magazine after reading a tweet from some I guy I don’t know referencing the article on the unrealistic expectations of milennials for the work+life balance. I found the content of your blog to be very encouraging. I am your age and actually live in Tennessee. I have fought my way to the point where I am halfway to my financial goal and have an office. Today was a very big day for me because when I arrived to work there was a name plate outside of my office with MY name on it.

    At 25 years old and working in a very special facility like the one I’m currently working in were most of the 40-something managers work out of a cubicle and only a very select few have their own office, it really rang to me today how our generation’s tenacity and acceptance of “you can do you wantever you want” has really resounded in some of us. I’m glad to see someone vocalizing their feelings and encouraging others. I wish you the best of success with your writing career and this blog, I promise to continue reading and cherishing your insight!



    • #10 by amberinnyc on January 26, 2011 - 5:25 pm

      Thanks Peter!
      I love to hear about fellow Gen Y’ers who are kicking ass and taking names!

  7. #11 by Nicole on January 28, 2011 - 3:40 pm

    Hey I stumbled upon your site by accident! You are awesome. I really like what you are doing here. Adding to my Reader =)

    • #12 by amberinnyc on January 28, 2011 - 4:28 pm

      Thanks Nicole!
      I’m going to have to check out your site!

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